James Lynn Bates

Born: Fri., Dec. 11, 1959
Died: Sat., Nov. 2, 2019

Memorial Service

1:30 PM Sat., Nov. 23, 2019

Print Obituary   Home Page All Obituaries

Music by The Piano Brothers

James Lynn Bates, age 59, went on to be with God on Saturday, November 2, 2019.  He was born in Portsmouth, VA to Billy Wayne Bates and Jettie Evelyn Burgin on December 11, 1959.  

James graduated from I. C. Norcom High School in Portsmouth in 1978.  James always had an interest in media and telecommunications.  He began working for AT&T in 1986 as an operator.  Later he would become an IT specialist for them, IBM, and American Airlines.  James lived in Virginia for the first 20 plus years of his life in the cities of Portsmouth, Fredericksburg, and Leesburg.  He later moved to Peachtree Corners, GA.

James was beloved by many for his outgoing charm, wit, smile, laugh, and tender heart to anyone he met.  James loved people and blessed any public gathering with the love he gave to others.  He was an avid gardener and an excellent cook.  He loved the ocean, seafood, and fishing; gladly casting a lure whenever he could.  He loved 70s and 80’s music.  He enjoyed thinking outside of the box.  James loved animals and provided for dozens of them over his lifetime.  James was a great genealogist for his family, always connecting our history with that of generations past.  He loved to tinker with cars.  Most of all, he loved his two children, Aja and Finn.  We will miss seeing him laugh.  We will miss the way he regularly checked up on us to see if we were well.  We will miss his openness of spirit and welcoming hospitality to all people, regardless of their race, color, gender, or beliefs. 

Among his survivors are his 2 children, Aja (Peachtree Corners, GA) and Finn (Peachtree Corners, GA); his ex-wives, Deborah (Peachtree Corners, GA) and Lisa Shreiner (Greensboro, NC); his father Bill of Fredericksburg; 2 brothers Daryl Bates (Stafford, VA), and Bruce Bates (Cumberland, RI); and several loving nieces and nephews.  He is preceded in death by his brother Lawrence (Portsmouth, VA) and his mother Evelyn (Fredericksburg, VA) 

A memorial service will be held at the Norfolk Church of Christ, on Saturday, November 23 at 1:30pm.  The family will receive friends beginning at 12 noon until the service time.  Memorials can be sent to the church there at 5801 Granby St, Norfolk, VA 23505

An additional service will be held in Atlanta, GA.  The time and place to be announced.


Click to send flowers using our local area florist
Direct website to florist ordering, saving on wire fees
View/Sign the Condolence Book

Click the button to generate a printable document containing all condolences submitted

Condolence Booklet

William Armentrout
   Posted Thu November 07, 2019
Daryl, Bruce, Bill...I am very sorry to hear about James. I always enjoyed talking to him about politics and car repair on FB and talking to him when he visited Fredericksburg. James was always witty and well spoken. He will be missed.

Tim Armentrout
   Posted Fri November 08, 2019
The James I knew was sharp as a tack, confident but humble, and had a warm enveloping laugh. At church services, his thunderous singing was always appreciated. He was never short on words or devoid of a good quip or two. He talked often about his youth in the Fredericksburg area. His dad Bill let me know that James' interest in cars was both storied and often innovative, requiring tinkering and, uh, manly ingenuity.

His posts on Facebook were always reasoned, and made me expand my own shallow positions. He had insight I overlooked and was always there for some light snarky comments. He and I jokingly lamented how many of the Bates weren't as politically enlightened as we were. :-)

I will miss my bud James but I know I will see him again. My life has certainly been blessed for having known him. Thanks to our Lord to see that my path shared a part of his. Until we meet again brother.

   Posted Fri November 08, 2019

Bob and Shirley Powers
   Posted Fri November 08, 2019
So sorry for your loss. Love and prayers.4

Ron Breninger
   Posted Sat November 09, 2019
We hold all of your family in our hearts and prayers.

Rick Harrell
   Posted Sat November 09, 2019
To the family I am deeply sorry for your loss. I am very deeply sorry for the world for the loss of this great soul. James was my best friend and mentor, soul mate, confidant... I could go on forever. Whenever I needed advice, guidance or just someone to vent on James was there for me. He unique view of all people saying "that everyone has some good in them you just have to patience and find it in them", has helped me in life often. James and I were very close in our High school years and working at the Family Fish House for years. I will and have always cherished those days. James was a good man and I do not say that lightly. James always wanted to help others with their problems and was always a level headed person to go to for advice. To borrow the words of Vince Gill, "Go rest High on that Mountain. I know your life on Earth was troubled and only you could know the pain. You weren't afraid to face the devil. You were no stranger to the rain. Go rest high on that mountain, son your work is done, go to heaven a shoutin love for the father and the son." There is a great void in my heart, but I will fill with all the great memories of things we did together. I love you man !!! Condolences to all of the family.

Erika Price
   Posted Sun November 10, 2019
My deepest sympathy to the entire Bates family. I’ve worked with James for close to 17 years. Several of us worked with James on a daily basis. This is a huge loss to us all. James wore his heart on his sleeve. We all knew he thought the world of his two children. I’ll miss the banter and joking we all did to make our work day fun. Specifically, I’ll remember joking between another coworker and James who was in first place with rescuing the most animals. After James saved the baby squirrel, my vote was with him. Rest In Peace my friend! I’ll cherish the fond memories!

Apoorvi Mehta
   Posted Mon November 11, 2019
I have worked with James closely over the last few years. He has been extremely resourceful and witty person. Conversations with him have been fun. He has been out go to person for so many things at work. Here is hoping he finds peace and love as he rightly deserved.

Melanie Haley
   Posted Mon November 11, 2019
Sending my deepest sympathy for your family, and their loss of James, we knew each other from the neighborhood and I only found out about his passing today. I enjoyed reconnecting with him years ago on Facebook and had a chance to catch up after a number of years where we had all gone our separate ways in life. He was always very smart, and funny, sharp as a tack, and I respected his opinion, and his spirit in exchanging thoughts on difference issues. He saw the world outside the box, or cocoon and shared his opinion honestly about it. He will most definitely be missed, again so so sorry for your loss

Bobby Edwards
   Posted Tue November 12, 2019
I remember James from IC Norcom. Great guy. Sorry for your lost. Bobby Edwards

Missy Thurlow
   Posted Tue November 12, 2019
I have always enjoyed James and his humor and sarcastic personality. He was a neighbor and often came to events that we had at our house. I am so sorry to hear about his death and am thinking about his family at this time. Prayers go out to his children and all his family at this time. Our neighborhood will certainly miss James and so will I. My thoughts are with you all. Missy Thurlow

Steve Holt
   Posted Fri November 15, 2019
James, I only met two Bates brothers: you and Bruce. My life has been greatly enriched by you both. Thank you for your friendship. You are loved and missed.

Cheryl Gramig
   Posted Thu November 21, 2019
Aja and Finn, we are so sorry for your loss. We were neighbors in Leesburg and became good friends with your Mom and Dad when you were really little. He certainly loved you both dearly. We are thinking of you in the days and months ahead and hope you will always keep his spirit and memory in your heart. Sincerely, Cheryl Gramig

Pam Campbell
   Posted Fri November 22, 2019
Bruce and Jan, my heart aches for the loss of your brother.
Words have a hard time expressing my thoughts. My prayers are
with you and your family. The Spirit will make sense of my words
Love in Him, Pam

Jonathan Wright
   Posted Sat November 23, 2019
I want to express my prayers and sympathy to the Bates family. Any time we lose a loved one it is difficult but it can be especially sorrowful during the holiday season. I pray the memory of James and his love for each of you will make you smile when you need it.

Working with James was always a highlight of the time I spent at At&T and IBM. He always had an interesting story, a quick witted comment and always a genuine caring heart. His intelligence made our team one of the best. He always had a solution for your problem.

It was a privilege working with James. The only regret I have is not staying in touch with him over the last six years.

My prayers are with you all as lay him to rest that his Lord has prepared for him.

Please let me know of the Atlanta services. Thank you.

Darrell Stallsworth
   Posted Fri December 06, 2019
Our thoughts and prayers are with the entire Bates family.

James was the first person and family we met when we moved to Leesburg Virginia. We lived only a few houses away. At that time both of our daughters were only 2 years old and for several years we did everything together as one big family. My wife and I were only 24 years old and with a young child we were clearly overwhelmed and unprepared. Transferring to a new state with no other family members or friends is never easy but it was James and his family that got us thru. He was a great cook and super innovative. He always loved talking about technology. Several years later when we purchased our first home James took the time to help us get organized and helped me frame our basement in a single weekend. After he and his family moved to Georgia we stayed in touch on holidays and in recent years via FB. I wish we had more time together. The love, friendship and inspiring leadership he shared with us and everyone he met will never be forgotten. James was an amazing person and we feel extremely blessed to have known him.

Please let us know of Atlanta services.

Sabrina Giles
   Posted Fri December 06, 2019
I want to express my prayers and sympathy to the Bates family. I only worked with James at IBM for the past 2 years, but I was always super impressed. He was such a nice person and so funny! I'll never forget his humor and how he was always willing to help me. I so wish I could have told him these things before but will send them up in prayer.

Image: Arvind Balaraman / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Copyright © 2020 Phoenix Funeral Services, Inc.. All Rights Reserved.    | Website by CFS |